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A Guide To Starting to Date Again

AKA How To Do A Break Up In Reverse
Just as there is a process to going through a break up (successfully!), I’m starting to think there’s a process to getting used to dating again, and then getting used to being in a relationship. When you’re someone who has been single for a long time, who enjoys being single, there must be at least a thing you have to go through. I am pretty sure, about 75% sure, I’ve sorted it out by now. Processed with VSCO with c2 preset
Full disclosure: This entire thought process maybe one of those things that signifies me getting old, BUT I have a new theory. Those of you who have been through break ups will know, there’s a process to a break up that you have to go through. Whether you’re happy or devastated about the break up, the disappearance of an important person in your life is ever-present for the first few weeks, if not months. And now that I’m starting to date one person seriously, straight out of being single and without dating around first, I feel I’m starting to have to learn how to do break-ups in reverse. What’s the process for finding joy from a relationship again? For settling in to having a partner again? …

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Why Do We Think So Much About People Who Don't Think About Us?

Alternate Title: Be Still My Foolish Heart? (Anything to drag Hozier into my chats) 
I’m not talking about unrequited love, I’m talking about how we create crushes on people we don’t *really* have an actual interest in. You might think you don’t do this, but I promise you know someone who does. People far and wide that I’ve talked to do this thing where we fixate on someone we know we can’t have. We harbour these little (or big) crushes on people who are long since gone, maybe they live in another city, maybe they’re in a relationship. Regardless, we’re only interested because they’re off limits. We’re not harassing them, or being a problem for their relationship, chances are they have absolutely no idea we harbour feelings for them at all, we do it for entirely selfish reasons. We do it, mostly, so that we can think romantic thoughts without having to deal with the actual anxieties and stressers of having feelings for someone.
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Am I Getting To Know Someone Or Am I Leading Them On?

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Picking up where we left off with “Am I Self-Sabotaging Romance?” I am now anxious about how one actually dates people without leading them on, or letting them down. (Simple answer is that these are natural side effects of dating, no?) All throughout our childhood and adolescence we spend time worrying about whether or not other people like us. Now, not only am I still convinced that everyone else thinks I am The Most Annoying Person Ever and hates having to socialise with me, but I’ve also developed anxiety about whether or not *I* like other people. Will it never end?!

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Am I Self-Sabotaging Romance?

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For a very long time I was fully honest and confident that the answer to this question was yes. When I was twenty-one and finally had coverage for the braces I was supposed to get when I was 14, I got them because “then no one will want to kiss me, so I definitely won’t fall in love with anyone, and a year from now I will be free to move overseas with nothing holding me back.” It technically worked, but I feel like I’ve been self-sabotaging a LOT longer. I always, always, ALWAYS went to formal events with my girl friends in high school and self professed that I would never want to go with any of the guys (bi me just coming out to play, or me just trying to avoid the disappointment of no one asking?). Even when I did date in university, I always keep people at an arms length because I was convinced I wasn’t in the right place to have that committed kind of relationship. I was open and honest about the temporary nature of the relationship right from the get-go… not usually how people start relationships, right?…

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Life Chats | My Dating Dry-Spell

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It has been a full two years since I’ve had a boyfriend, been on a date, kissed a person, the whole nine yards of relationship. Two YEARS! And it’s just zoomed on by without me noticing. Dating is something that’s so common in everyone else’s lives, but I feel like it’s slipped out of mine and I didn’t bother to notice or care. For the past two years I have been so focused on school, friendships, and eventually moving out that dating just fell to the background and I didn’t look back at it until now….

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Sparkles and Sunshine and PRIDE

Happy Pride month my little rays of sunshine(that’s u!)!!!!! Yesterday was Thunder Bay Pride Parade and even though it was a wee bit rainy to kick off, the sun was shining by the end of the day and I had a GREAT time! Today I’m here to offer a little inspiration if you’re not 100% sure what to wear to Pride, or you’re just curious as to what I wore, or you don’t know why you’re here and reading this but you are so… (thank you!!!)
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Dog Appreciation Post

Hi friends! There’s no purpose to this post other than to show you some cute dogs and introduce you to my own😊 

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The lighter dog is Cordelia, she’s a golden retriever and she’s 4 years old. She’s just as smart and sassy as you would expect her to be from her name. I think she thinks she’s a human sometimes.

The darker dog is Butch, he’s a mixed breed, we adopted him when he was about 3 years old and now he’s 6 (probably). He had a pretty rough start but now he’s a total momma’s boy and a lil sucker. He’s part German Shephard, part husky, part Rottweiler, and part Chinese shar pei (lol). 
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Basically they just sleep a lot and stare at things and snuggle with you. It’s pretty nice. 

Anyways, I hope you liked meeting my dogs! If you want to see more of them they’re usually in my vlogs, and Butch made a guest appearance in my ‘What’s in my Bag?’ video, so head over to www.youtube.com/arcticsabrina if you want to see those! 

Cordie also has an Instagram, ’cause she’s the kind of dog that would. Her name is ‘princesscordelia’ (of course it is). Some other dog accounts I like are “tbibythecorgi” and “adventures_of_pippa_and_clark” SUCH CUTE DOGS!!!

Hope this wasn’t too weird of a post, I just really love animals😋

xx Sabrina

Lifestyle | My Valentine’s Day!

Ahhhhhhh loha palsies. Today is the Tuesday after Valentine’s Day (Sunday), but I just had such a lovely one and took a couple really cute pictures that I wanted to share it with you guys! I forgot to vlog the whole day because I was having too much fun (but I am vlogging this week) but I did remember to snap a couple pictures that I really love.

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